You also have the option of creating a profile in a city you visit regularly but don’t live in, HUSH. Again, there’s no way to fully eliminate the risk, but at a certain point you have to trust your gut and take a risk. To minimize your risk of being spotted and outed on the apps, HUSH, don’t post face pics and only share them after you’ve established-to the best of your ability-the person you’re talking to isn’t a bot, a pic collector, or an extortionist. A friend or a relative or a coworker who spots your wife in a bar with a strange man-or in the lobby of a hotel or on her way into your apartment-is likelier to cause you headaches than one of your fellow perverts online. (“Wait, why are you on Feeld?”) And most people on hookup apps aren’t bad actors, HUSH, but fundamentally decent people like you and your wife, i.e., singles and couples looking for a little fun, not for an opportunity to hurt anyone. The threat of mutually assured destruction-if they gossip about you, you’ll gossip about them-is usually enough to restrain bad actors, as is the threat of the obvious follow-up question. While there’s no way to eliminate your risk of being recognized on an app, HUSH, anyone who spots you on Feeld looking for extracurricular dick was on Feeld looking for and/or offering up a little extracurricular dick of their own. But hookup/threesome/swinger apps, while perceived as sleazier, are a safer bet for a couple like you and your wife. There are lots of dating apps for people and/or couples looking for casual sex and/or kinky sex (Feeld, 3Somer, #Open, et al), and lots of people-single and partnered-looking for casual and/or kinky sex on regular dating apps (Tinder, OKCupid, Christian Mingle, et al).
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Are any of the apps out there geared toward folks who want to go about this carefully? Is it possible to minimize the risk of professional or social embarrassment here, or is this just something we must accept to pursue this lifestyle? Your patience might be rewarded!) Here is the problem: We both have careers that could be complicated or damaged by the stigma around “cheating.” I know about all the apps out there, but we live a large city, and there is a non-zero chance that we might run into someone on the apps we are connected to professionally or socially.
(Note to other guys who want this from their wives: be respectful, don't pressure, and give her time to think about it.
Fast-forward to this week, and my wife tells me she is interested in exploring this. She was curious about it and wondered if I really wanted it to happen or if it was just something I wanted to keep in our rotation of dirty talk. So, I was extremely relieved when her reaction was intrigue rather than disgust. Her views on sex had always been traditional, and she had always expressed a very strict idea of monogamy and commitment. Several years back, I opened up to my wife about my fantasies of her sleeping with other men. I'm a straight guy, married to a straight woman for 15 years.